Saturday, August 14, 2010

Struggling with emotions

I have to confess that I occasionally struggle with feeling unappreciated.  Being a mom isn't easy ... every mother knows that ... but I also know feeling unappreciated isn't limited to moms.

Being pregnant right now isn't helping my emotions.  I recognize that.  But it's hard to feel appreciated when:

  • the kids aren't obeying,

  • they stand by and watch you work without pitching in,

  • they focus on what you haven't done for them rather than what you have done,

  • meals that you put time and effort into aren't appreciated

  • meals that you didn't put time and effort into, but still dragged yourself into the hot kitchen to prepare, are rejected,

  • you have to repeat yourself over and over and over,

  • the house is continually a mess, and it seems no one cares but you,

  • deep down you know that all of those issues mean you didn't train your kids well enough.


And then there are the disappointments.   Everyone faces disappointments, and I know I'm not the only one.  I have friends hoping to conceive, who watch others conceive while they just continue to hope ... month after month.  In reality, this and many disappointments of those around me far outweigh my own.   I know this, but the pregnancy hormones don't help.

So I've been feeling unappreciated, disappointed, frustrated, and sad.  They're just feelings ... and feelings lie ... but feelings can be hard to overcome.  Which means it's time to stop thinking about myself.   It's time to stop looking at the negatives, and try to find the good.   My focus is obviously in the wrong place.

Lord, help me to have a servant's heart.  Help me to serve joyfully, no matter what.   Lord, help me to give all my hopes and dreams to you ... and trust YOU for the outcome.   Even if those dreams are never realized, help me to be content.  Change my heart, Lord!  Amen.

Trying to walk in His ways,
April E.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Review: Story Starters by Karen Andreola

Title:  Story Starters:  Helping Children Write Like They've Never Written Before
Author:  Karen Andreola
Format:  Softcover
Publisher:  Charlotte Mason Research & Supply Company
ISBN:  978-1-889209-04-3
Price:   $34.95


As a longtime proponent of Charlotte Mason's educational philosophy and methods, Karen Andreola re-introduced Charlotte Mason to the homeschool community.   Her books have inspired me and encouraged me throughout my homeschool career.   Her book, Charlotte Mason Companion, was one of the first books other homeschoolers recommended to me.



When I heard that Karen had written a writing curriculum, I knew it was something I'd want to add to my own homeschool.  Karen's Story Starters is a unique creative writing supplement, from a Charlotte Mason perspective.   Story Starters combines picture study with the use of story starters.  The story starters are more than just a writing prompt, but actually the beginning of a story which leaves off at an exciting point that inspires the imagination to complete the story.



Story Starters begins with an explanation of how the book is intended to be used, and how Karen Andreola used "exciting writing" in her own homeschool.   The first few chapters also include:


  • ideas for using the book in various ways (as a scheduled lesson or an occasional game)
  • instruction on how to use this book with different ages of children, and different writing abilities
  • grading suggestions to use with high school students



The majority of the book is taken up with the story starters themselves.  There are sixty-seven pictures, with exciting story starters, to get our children started on their creative writing journey.  Some of the stories are marked B for beginner, and some are marked I for intense.  Though any age student can use the B stories, they are especially suited for those just beginning.




At the end of the book, Karen has written a section entitled Hints For Polishing.  Since this is intended for the older students, it is written directly to the student.  It includes sections on adding descriptive language, engaging the reader's senses, choosing verbs carefully, and developing your character's description.


The next  section of the book teaches you how to use Story Starters in an even more challenging way for the older students:  having the student study the picture and narrate a story from the picture alone.  Twenty-four additional pictures are included for story writing, without provided story starters.  Karen walks the student through the major components of a story, so they will be able to develop their own plot, create interesting characters, have a point of conflict, and a resolution.



The final section of the book focuses once more on Charlotte Mason's views on narration.  Narration is a natural ability that children have, which can be turned into the ability to write, with guidance.   Story Starters helps provide the guidance by allowing children to practice their writing skills in a fun and non-threatening manner.



When I employed Story Starters in my own home, I chose one of the stories marked B for beginner, and read it to my three elementary age students.  The first grader dictated his story to me, and I recorded it for him.  Once he was done, he illustrated the story.  My fourth grader took the longest to write his story, which included several plot twists.  He needed encouragement and help with some of his spelling, as he isn't confident in his writing (or spelling) abilities yet.   My sixth grader wrote her story quickly, and easily.  All three of them were eager to read their stories to each other, to me, and especially to Dad once he was home.  Their stories were unique and reflected their age, gender, and interests.  The next day they begged for another story starter, though I didn't have it scheduled until later in the week.


With my junior and senior high students, I encouraged them to each choose their own story starter.  My eighth grade and tenth grade daughters each chose one that interested them, and then developed their stories.  Again, their interests and personalities were reflected in their stories.  There are areas that need to be improved, and some of the children struggled with the resolution of their stories -- but they enjoyed the creative writing process,  and that was my goal.

Story Starters made our first week of school fun!  The children enjoyed developing their exciting stories much more than writing an essay about their summer or jumping into a more serious writing assignment.  More importantly, they are looking forward to continuing to use Story Starters.  They  count down the days until their next writing assignment.


Story Starters does what it promises.  It helps students write like they've never written before.   Since Story Starters is reusable, non-consumable, and adaptable for every age of student, it's a great value for the homeschool family.


Thank you, Karen Andreola, for an excellent creative writing resource!




This item was provided free to me, for review purposes.  This is an independent review.



April E.

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Housekeeping Rule #605

The more children you have, the less nice clothes you have to hand-down.  Even if the item is brand new at the start of a season, it may not be wearable in the next season.

(I'm not sure if kids just get messier the more you have, or if  parents just get more relaxed about what they let them eat and where they let them play.  I'm sure it's not because I spend less time treating stains than I used to.   I think I like the "kids get messier" theory.)

Keeping the Home,
April E.