Thursday, December 5, 2013

Review: Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst
Making wise choices in the midst of raw emotions - such an excellent subtitle - such a struggle for so many of us.  I'm sure I'm not the only one who has struggled to make wise choices in the hectic moments of life, and not the only one who has come unglued at times, lashing out verbally at those around us.  Thankfully, I don't think many of us end up looking like this tantrum that comedienne Julia Louis-Dreyfus faked in a coffee shop - but we can pull some major guilt trips on our families, putting on our martyr-hat and going on and on (loudly) about how we have to do all the work, no one appreciates us, and just what is everyone's problem anyway? Cupboard doors slam, feet stomp, husbands disappear to the garage, kids scatter and rush to finish their chores as fast as possible.

Lysa TerKeurst has opened up and revealed her own struggles with controlling her emotions - actually her reactions to raw emotions - in her book Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions.  She talks about the two wrong ways to handle those emotions - stuffing and exploding - and breaks it down into four different categories:
  1. The Exploder Who Shames Herself
  2. The Exploder Who Blames Others
  3. The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers
  4. The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks
Lysa then tackles each category and shows us what each type of "unglued" looks like through examples from her own life.  She shows how we can actually fall into different categories with different people, and most importantly, how we can overcome that tendency and handle conflicts in a godly way. My favorite chapters actually covered ways that we can equip ourselves to cope with the raw emotions by making sure we have room to breathe and our souls are filled with God's Word.

Lysa's book is very well-written and it was a very timely and helpful book for me.  I haven't been giving myself room to breathe or spending enough time on my own spiritual growth, and it was showing.  Hectic moments of life (which are frequent in a family our size) were just bringing out more and more unglued reactions from me. We all try to hide our tendency to come unglued from others, especially other Christians.  I'm very thankful that Lysa tackled the subject so transparently, to help us overcome the tendency to stuff our frustrations down until we just can't hold any more and explode on our families and friends.

Lysa also has a DVD Bible study (also published by Zondervan) that accompanies this book, and the video portion of the study is filmed in Florence, Italy.  I'd love to study this with the women in my church or some of the homeschool moms in our group. Because while the book is very practical, it doesn't delve into Scripture as much as I'd like to, or as much as I need to overcome this battle.  So while I recommend the book, I know from using some of Lysa's other DVD Bible studies, that I'll benefit even more from the study. 

If you're struggling with your raw emotions, coming unglued with those you care about most ... please read Lysa's book, Unglued, or join a Bible study using her Unglued Study guide.

April E.

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